His 104 tattoos?
Pete lost his dad, a New York firefighter, during the September 11th terrorist attacks in 2001.
Pete was just seven at the time and was extremely affected by the death. Tattoos are clearly a way he likes to express himself – he has over 104 all over his body – and he has a number of them dedicated to his late father including the number “11” behind his left ear, a firefighter tattoo on his left arm and “IX” and the number nine inked just below it.
In an interview, he said, “I don’t let a lot of people know about my dad dying on 9/11. It’s not a way to introduce yourself.
«So I never told anybody, and then I would do jokes about it…and I think people thought I was lying about it. Which would be crazy.”
In a 2016 Comedy Central special he talked about growing up with his single mum who “had to do a lot of weird sh**” in the absence of his father — including buying her son a huge box of condoms as a gift.
“I just wanted to be like, ‘Ma, who the fuck do you think your son is?’” he says. “I never even brought a friend home, what made you think I was out there like slinging p****.”
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Pete with his dad, who died in the 9/11 terror attacksCredit: Instagram
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Pete has a tribute to his dad behind his left earCredit: Getty — Contributor
His love-in with Hillary Clinton?
Pete supported Hillary Clinton in the 2016 US presidential election and on December 5th, 2017, he revealed on Instagram that he got a tattoo on her face on his leg.
He shared the snap of his inking and wrote: «Wanted to get @hillaryclinton a Christmas gift so I got a tattoo of my hero. Thanks for being such a badass and one of the strongest people in the universe.»
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The comedian has a tattoo of Hillary Clinton on his leg
Hillary thanked Pete for the compliment and joked: «This makes it significantly less awkward that I’ve had a Pete Davidson tattoo for years.»
Whatever it is, he’s clearly irresistible to the rich and famous…
BDE Behavior
What’s less clear is how the confidence at the heart of BDE manifests in the way a person behaves. The range of seemingly dissimilar celebrities unanimously believed to have BDE gives us no indication: Frank Ocean, Cate Blanchett, Harry Styles, Timothée Chalamet, O-Town, Martha Stewart — what is it these people do that conveys BDE to those of us with mediocre DE at best?
Alas, there’s not much that science can do to point us in the right direction here. “Surprisingly, there is no data on whether penis size is related to sexual behavior,” says Frederick, though he mentions his own unpublished data on 441 adult men showing that men who are more confident in their penis size are generally more confident in dating and sexual activities.
No causality has been established yet, he notes, and third variables can’t be ruled out. “ men who are more confident or narcissistic think they have larger penises and also are more comfortable approaching women. Additionally, we can’t rule out direction of causality — maybe having a large penis makes you more confident in approaching women, but the reverse could be true: Maybe having more dating success causes men to think they have a larger than average penis size,” he says.
His 104 tattoos?
Pete lost his dad, a New York firefighter, during the September 11th terrorist attacks in 2001.
Pete was just seven at the time and was extremely affected by the death. Tattoos are clearly a way he likes to express himself – he has over 104 all over his body – and he has a number of them dedicated to his late father including the number “11” behind his left ear, a firefighter tattoo on his left arm and “IX” and the number nine inked just below it.
In an interview, he said, “I don’t let a lot of people know about my dad dying on 9/11. It’s not a way to introduce yourself.
«So I never told anybody, and then I would do jokes about it…and I think people thought I was lying about it. Which would be crazy.”
In a 2016 Comedy Central special he talked about growing up with his single mum who “had to do a lot of weird sh**” in the absence of his father — including buying her son a huge box of condoms as a gift.
“I just wanted to be like, ‘Ma, who the fuck do you think your son is?’” he says. “I never even brought a friend home, what made you think I was out there like slinging p****.”
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Pete with his dad, who died in the 9/11 terror attacksCredit: Instagram
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Pete has a tribute to his dad behind his left earCredit: Getty — Contributor
Is it his openness about his mental health?
Pete has been vocal about his mental health issues and in December 2018, took to Instagram to reveal he was struggling, writing: “I really don’t want to be on this earth anymore. I’m doing my best to stay here for you but I actually don’t know how much longer I can last.»
The 25-year-old finished his post with a love heart emoji, then deleted his entire Instagram account leaving fans extremely concerned, and causing ex Ariana to make a public apology via tweet, asking him not to do anything.
On earlier posts, the comedian told fans he’d been targeted by vile bullies online for nine months who, shockingly, urged him to harm himself.
On one post he wrote: «I just want you guys to know. No matter how hard the internet or anyone tries to make me kill myself. I won’t.
«I’m upset I even have to say this. To all those holding me down and seeing this for what it is – I see you and I love you.»
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Pete, seen on SNL with Ariana, has been open about his mental healthCredit: SNL
Is it his love of PDA (public displays of affection)?
Perhaps Pete’s allure to women is the way he’ll happily demonstrate his affections via social media, his tattoos or just not being able to keep his hands off his current girlfriend in public.
Just a few months after his split from Ariana, Pete confirmed his romance with London-born actress Kate Beckinsale, 45, by packing on the PDA and passionately kissing as they sat courtside at a New York Rangers ice hockey game.
The pair met at the Golden Globes afterparty and had no issue with the 20-year age gap, with Kate telling American TV show Extra what she found attractive, saying, “Funny. I like funny.”
They split after four months and Kate told the Los Angeles Times she’d, “never dated anybody who comes with their own bag of mischief. It’s all quite shocking and something to get used to.”
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Pete and Kaia couldn’t keep their hands off each other on their poolside dateCredit: Splash News
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Pete and Kate Beckinsale at the New York Rangers gameCredit: Rex Features
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Pete and Kate Beckinsale made no secret of their affection at the gameCredit: Rex Features
Is it his BDE (big d*** energy)?
In May 2018 it was revealed that Pete was dating Ariana Grande.
Within a few weeks the pair were engaged, had bought a pet pig called Piggy Smallz and had inked their mutual love in matching tattoos.
Then Ariana – promoting her long-awaited album — referenced the size of Pete’s penis in a tweet, and soon everyone was talking about his ‘Big D*** Energy’ (abbreviated to BDE).
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Pete and Ariana, pictured at the MTV Awards, started dating in May 2018Credit: Reuters
The five-foot-tall singer also alluded to Pete’s nether region in her music video for the song Thank U, Next, where she wrote “HUUUUUUGE” underneath a photo of the couple in her burn book.
According to New York magazine, The Cut, BDE is a quiet confidence that comes from knowing you have an enormous penis and you know what to do with it – and Pete Davidson had it in spades.
While most men would love such flattery, when their whirlwind romance ended after four months, Pete claimed his ex’s comments had a drawback.
He told an audience at Tarrytown Music Hall in New York: “I don’t like that she talked all that sh** for my penis. Everything is huge to her.
«Why would she tell everyone that I have a huge penis? So that every girl who sees my dick for the rest of my life is disappointed.”
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Pete and Ariana went public on their romance early onCredit: Refer to Caption
How would ‘Big Dick Energy’ ultimately be progressive?
It would suffice to take a step back: the image would not be intended to celebrate vigorous members, but to mock the male obsession around the size of his organ!
Some also happily consider that BDE assumes, in addition to charisma, an immediate ability to make others feel good, which is the antithesis of toxic masculinity. It is by comparing themselves to men deploying their BDE, that people angry at being unable to feel such self-confidence would develop toxic masculinity. And to recall that ostensibly showing off your muscles, or behaving like a bully, are definitely not BDE attitudes.
Others consider that survival in the modern, male-dominated world requires a huge Big Dick Energy from women. And that instead of discussing the sexism of the concept, we would do better to celebrate all the heroines who demonstrate it on a daily basis to keep society going.
Shit Talking:
- Jameela Jamil, on British people: “We’re terrible, cold, dead people.”
- Tina Fey, on why she claims her daughters won’t be “mean girls”: “If I see mean girl behavior, I try to sit on it.”
- Victoria Beckham, on being most famous for the ability to lift her legs over her head: “People tag me in pictures of their cats doing it, their dogs doing it, their babies doing it. It’s very entertaining.”
- Ariana Madix, on definitely not sponsored Lincoln MKZ Hybrid: “I’ll never go back to a regular fast engine.”
- Kesha Rose, on buying crystals: “Whenever I go somewhere, I usually get a crystal.”
- Daisy Ridley, on being a celebrity apparently: “I don’t refer to myself like that. I’m in a film a lot of people like.”
- Rachel Ray, on your racist uncles showing up for the holidays: “If you don’t like them, don’t invite them!”
Horny Time:
It’s cold outside, which means everyone is extremely horny right now! In Touch claims that Gigi Hadid and former boy-bander Zayn Malik are “back on,” even though they’ve neither commented publicly nor been photographed together. There’s also a disturbing series of photos in Star, depicting a French-kissing session between Pete Davidson and Kaia Gerber. One “insider” spills: “They were just so hot and heavy, they couldn’t seem to keep their hands off each other.” Poor Kaia! Ancient cultures tell of incubi spirits who roam the mortal plane, looking to possess unsuspecting young women. I believe the model has fallen sway to one, if any of his ex-girlfriends are to be believed. (Ariana Grande only recently stopped speaking about the size of his penis, which means his magic is especially potent!)
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Remember Caitlyn Jenner? Ok! reports that her girlfriend Sophia Hutchins has been playing fast and loose with her massive fortune while Jenner is marooned in Australia, competing on I’m a Celebrity, Get Me Out of Here! Hutchins’s spoils? A house remodel, jewels, spa treatments, and a whole suite of Christmas gifts. Some may disagree, but I think it’s a stunning example of forcibly redistributing assets from the extremely wealthy! Unfortunately, the same cannot be said of Justin Hartley and Chrishell Stause. The couple is splitting despite “seeming happy and in love at a viewing party they recently hosted,” per the outlet. Despite what sources tell Ok!—that the two are splitting because of the strain his career put on his marriage—others now claim it’s mostly because he wants to keep her hands off a massive, incoming payday.
Meanwhile, Life & Style reveals that Jezebel shero Irina Shayk is looking to date, now that she’s put Bradley Cooper and his proclivity for Italian character actresses far, far behind her. As I previously reported, Shayk was spotted with a still-unidentified “mystery man” in New York City last month, where the two enjoyed a festive and slightly horny day bopping around the city. Sources tell Life & Style that she might not be in a relationship with him or anyone, but her girlfriends are “trying to find her a good man, and all that she asks is that he isn’t an actor.” With all the rich men and women she runs into at various fashion and entertainment events, I’d suggest looking for a nice, stable venture capitalist to wait out the apocalypse with!
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And even though nobody is asking, or cares, about Justin Timberlake’s side of the story, Us Weekly has committed a substantial amount of ink to it this week! While the rest of us have been busy pointing at him, someone—definitely not Timberlake or his publicist—has phoned up American Media to explain: “Justin and Alisha are just friends. Nothing remotely romantic is going on, has been dating an actor who lives in L.A. are like brother and sister.” Sounds creepy!
Graphic: Joan Summers/Jezebel, Screenshot: Ok!, In Touch, Us Weekly, Star, Life & Style
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Hot Gossip:
Everyone, and I literally mean everyone, is having an extremely terrible Christmastime—according to In Touch! The tabloid’s big story this week concerns a variety of feuds and heartbreaks and scandals that have erupted in the lives of our most beloved celebrities, just in time for the holidays!
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- Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner were spotted having an “explosive fight” outside Garner’s home right after Thanksgiving. Photographers snapped photos of them arguing while Garner held some sort of beverage, before the two drove in a tense silence to a nearby Starbucks, where the fight continued. Tipsters tell In Touch that the fight revolved around Ben’s “struggles with sobriety” this holiday season, which seems like neither In Touch or this tipster’s business. Let them fight publicly, but leave his sobriety alone!
- Justin Bieber was seen crying in Miami on November 27, just days after skipping the VMAs, where ex-Selena Gomez triumphantly stumbled her way through a song about him. Sources claim it’s because his marriage to Hailey Bieber is “suffering,” and “they’re going to call it quits.” Not to be rude, but I highly, highly doubt that their handlers at Hillsong would allow a breakup to overshadow Jesus’ upcoming birthday! (Or the free publicity their marriage affords the mega-church.)
- This story is rather depressing! Nefarious tipsters claim Gwen Stefani has been trying in-vitro fertilization treatments with Blake Shelton for “years” to no avail. Because of this, the couple is “heartbroken,” especially because there were “times was convinced Blake was going to leave her.” Again, I highly doubt it, considering how many stories they sell to the tabloids, or the massively popular network television show that hinges on their romance, but who can really say!
- Aunt Becky is also battling rumors that she will be spending Christmas in prison! Experts agree she could be looking at 45 years in the slammer (although most everyone else with a shred of common sense doubts this), while sources claim the legal situation has cast a long shadow over her Yuletide festivities. One source says: “Lori is terrified of spending Christmas inside a cell. She will be all alone. She doesn’t want to be separated from her family, especially this time of year, and she wishes she’d taken a deal in the beginning like Felicity Huffman.” Sad!
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Elsewhere, Star claims that Madonna’s kids would like Madame X to lose her eyepatch. Sources claiming to be “close” to her family allege: “Madonna has a lot of fans who love every wacky thing she doesn’t, especially her fashion choices, but her children aren’t always on board with her unique style.” Star also notes: “While the 61-year-old has noted that kids ‘teach you to stop being obsessed with yourself,” she’s clearly smitten with her latest alter ego.” For those who might not remember, the eyepatch first surfaced during her tepid album promotion cycle for Madame X, where it has somehow remained glued to her cranium ever since. The sacred object was allegedly inspired by Martha Graham who, according to Madonna, couldn’t ever remember who she was. So naturally, the dance icon dubbed the young singer “Madame X.” Strange, but ironically, I can never remember what Madame X’s daughter Lourdes looks like, or who she is, generally. Maybe it’s time for Madonna to pass the patch to her brood, so they can finally get recognized at airports and award shows!
Life & Style also claims in this week’s issue that Tori Spelling is deep in the throes of holiday shopping, despite the cancellation of her show and her continued severance from the Spelling family fortune. Bills to debtors might be piling up, but the influencer and occasional actress still wants to get her kids those envied Target toys for Christmas. You honestly can’t blame her, because who wouldn’t want to do the same! (Although, the average person isn’t millions in credit card debt, or famous, which certainly complicates things!) Further inside, the magazine claims that Rihanna lives in a $600 million “dream world,” filled with her billionaire boyfriend, private planes, junk food, and a rental home in London that costs $20,000 a day. Can someone please pass the memo to her before it’s too late, that many are actually planning to eat the rich in the coming years? I’d hate for her to be a casualty of the class wars!
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Graphic: Joan Summers/Jezebel, Screenshot: Ok!, Star, In Touch, Us Weekly, Life & Style
Where does the expression ‘Big Dick Energy’ come from?
The term was first used in June 2018 by African-American feminist author Kyrell Grant in reaction to the death of famous chef Anthony Bourdain.
An Internet user took it up again a year later to describe the actor Pete Davidson, who was also the subject of flattering rumours. The singer Ariana Grande, then his fiancée, seems to confirm, in a controversial tweet – since deleted.
In the days that followed, discussions on social networks and press articles questioned the relevance of the anatomical reference, and a consensus seemed to be reached to consider that it is not necessary to be particularly well endowed or even to be a man, to ooze confidence. It’s not the size that matters, it’s the attitude, the vibe.
The ‘BDE’ would therefore be gender-neutral. Lists of celebrities, men and women, are drawn up and debated. Among the elected: Harry Styles, Adam Driver, Cate Blanchett, Justin Bieber, Carrie Fisher, Bruce Springsteen, Cher, David Bowie, Johnny Cash, Tilda Swinton, Tom Hardy, Robert Downey Jr, Rihanna, Beyonce, Dwayne Johnson, Idris Elba, Cardi B, Chris Evans, Justin Theroux, Lindsay Lohan, Prince, Bobby Carnavale, Jeff Goldblum, Martha Stewart, Timothée Chalamet, Paul Giamatti, Diplo, LeBron James, Serena Williams, swimmer Katie Ledecky, but also judges Elena Kagan and Sonia Sotomayor, or even Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Christiane Taubira, Angela Merkel, some Nobel Prize winners, and Jesus …
On the other hand, some fail entry: David Beckham, Brad Pitt and George Clooney, Ryan Gosling, Chris Hemsworth, Justin Timberlake, Drake, Kanye West, Booba, Emmanuel Macron, Donald Trump, or his daughter Ivanka as well as his son-in-law Jared Kushner.
A Quick BDE Definition
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Big dick energy is not something that can be defined perfectly because it is a perception, not a tangible asset. Someone has BDE when he or she comes across as confident yet without arrogance, as comfortable in his or her own skin yet not conceited, and as unconcerned with what other people think of him or her yet not unconcerned about other people.
A person with BDE is charismatic, poised, and seems to make his or her way through life with minimal effort and maximum competence – it’s as though they have practiced at life the same way a basketball player practices on the court or a musician practices with an instrument. In other words, they make it look easy, but in this case the “it” isn’t a three-pointer or a rendition of “Moonlight Sonata,” it’s life itself.
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So, now that we have BDE understood, can we talk about the phrase itself? Because seriously, why is this characterization called big dick energy in the first place?
An unapologetic love of smoking pot?
In 2017, Pete revealed he was diagnosed with a borderline personality disorder that leaves him depressed, “all the time.”
He also suffers from Crohn’s disease — a chronic inflammatory bowel disease that affects the lining of the digestive tract – and he revealed during an interview with Howard Stern in September 2018 that he smoked marijuana regularly to help with Crohn’s and his mental health issues.
“It helps more than you can imagine,” he said.
“There was a point where I couldn’t get out of bed. I was 110 pounds. I also just love smoking weed. I’ve been smoking weed every day for eight years.”
He did go into rehab and get sober for three months but told Stern it didn’t work: “I was never sadder and everything was way worse.”
After his stint in rehab, he shared his story on the SNL Weekend Update, joking about being sober, masturbating ‘all the bad kids out’, and horse therapy.
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Pete leaves an LA nightclub with Kate in FebruaryCredit: The Mega Agency
6 Signs You Have Big Dick Energy
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Big dick energy is one of those things you would probably never identify in yourself – indeed the people with the most BDE would worry about it the least! But since we’re already on the topic, let’s take a look at a few traits of people who exude big dick energy. If all or most of them apply to you, you may have BDE.
1. You don’t feel the need to justify your words or actions – If you are comfortable letting what you have said or done stand on its own without clarification, justification, or excuse, your confidence and sense of propriety point to a case of BDE.
2. You are not easily affected by criticism – If you can handle wisecracks, insults, and criticism with equanimity, you may be doing so because of your big dick energy. This is not to say you don’t care what other people say, but that you can control how it affects you. Remember the Eleanor Roosevelt quote: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” And yes, she had BDE!
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3. You are very comfortable in your own skin – complete security in one’s body is attractive. If your self-confidence and sense of self-worth are sizeable yet you are not arrogant or self-centered, you definitely have some BDE going on.
4. You put your mind to things and get them done – If you let your actions and achievements speak louder than your words, then you are a BDE kind of person.
5. You influence others even when you’re not trying to – If you tend to have an impact on people’s opinions, preferences, and ideas even without putting in any effort to do so, that’s because of your BDE.
6. You are Stanley Tucci.
What the Fuck Did She Wear?
Greta Gerwig and Olivia Wilde both stepped out in “safari themed” Hermés dresses, although I wish that both had kept them locked up and far, far out of sight. No more Hermés on the red carpet, please! Gwendoline Christie sparkled in a perfectly fine Miu Miu goddess draped something or other, while I’m still baffled over the terrible dress Dancing With the Stars producers forced Hannah Brown to wear when accepting her big, sparkly disco ball. Christina Aguilera emerged from the mist wearing shoulder pads as glaring as her recent album sales. Somewhere else, Hailey Baldwin triumphantly strutted along in a beach towel, see-through skirt, and bralette. I’m not entirely mad at it!
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I’d also like to point out that Hoda Kotb wore macrame to her engagement, which is the most rich lady getting engaged ensemble I’ve ever seen. The lady marrying the racist Duck Dynasty man wore an ugly wedding dress, and Miley Cyrus debuted a fringe in a normcore-adjacent knit sweater I’d like to borrow! Ethan Hawke wandered around like my husband on his worst days, in an outfit he also owns; elsewhere in New York City, Kacey Musgraves strutted along in a missed opportunity. The coat and makeup and hair are fine, but I can’t look past the terrible dress they’ve been styled with. It should’ve been a suit! Then, of course, there is Candace Cameron Bure, who was photographed in an outfit worn by every mother of my many elementary school enemies. At least she stayed true to her brand!
I’d also like to take this moment to applaud Jessica Alba, who successfully pulled off the impossible: Wearing a Ralph & Russo gown I don’t detest with every fiber of my existence. It’s incredibly hard to pull off “spoiled princess chic” without looking tacky—just ask Camila Cabello—but the styling here is impeccable. The matching bag, the scrappy heels, the demure earring, and ostentatious tiara. Everything works together in perfect harmony. Good job, Jessica! It appears the $200 million cash infusion your company absorbed after being sued by a bunch of moms for faulty products and false advertising has worked out for you!
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Why would ‘Big Dick Energy’ be ‘problematic’?
Although coined by a feminist about a man who publicly supported the #MeToo movement, the expression has irritated a number of female commentators who consider it unbearable to systematically associate attributes of power or success with the male gender.
Having so far eluded the d… competition, now women are invited to compare the size of a metaphorical penis to assess their respective mojo. However, no feminine characteristic is used to value access to power, the modalities for its exercise, or the qualities of its holders. It’s annoying.
An alternative expression was born as a reaction, ‘Horse Girl Energy’, but did not enjoy the same success.
Pete Davidson, Ariana Grande, And the History of the Term “Big Dick Energy”
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At the risk of moving back into crass territory, the phrase “big dick energy” all started with the report of, well, a big dick. Yes, a large male member. During a brief and passionate 2018 romance lasting from May to October, singer Ariana Grande sent out a Tweet about her boyfriend-cum-fiancé-cum-ex, SNL star Pete Davidson, that alluded to his 10-inch manhood.
The Tweet was quickly deleted – soon followed by deletion of the relationship – but once a thing like that is out there, it’s never out back in the bag. And so it began that Davidson’s cool, confident manner was soon associated with, well, the massive dick swinging in his pants.
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Now, who cares whether or not Grande’s brief Tweet was accurate? Who cares, frankly, about the size of anyone’s anatomy? Few people indeed. But what we do care about is the size of someone’s character, kindness, confidence, and charisma.
That said, tryhard vibes kill BDE and it really does make sense in our society that a guy who knew he was well-endowed would have less to worry about and more to be proud of, and thus would exude cool confidence anyway. The flip side of the equation would be a man who bought a massive pickup truck and then hung a set of truck nuts off the back – would he come across as having a plentiful package down there, or would he seem more like he was trying to compensate for something?
The BDE Assumption
BDE is based on the cultural assumption that a big penis is a better penis, which is in turn largely based on the assumed link between a big dick and sexual prowess. As psychiatrist Nicole Prause, Ph.D. and her team put it in a 2015 PLOS One study, “Women’s preferences for penis size may affect men’s comfort with their own bodies and may have implications for sexual health.” What is surprising is that studies have shown that women’s penis size preferences are not as extreme as one might expect from a society that got all flustered about Pete Davidson’s ten-inch lap hog.
To be clear, studies show that heterosexual women do want something a little bigger than average, but they aren’t looking for anything crazy. In a 2014 Psychology of Men and Masculinity study in which participants were asked their ideal penis length, women reported they wanted one 6.1 inches long, which is slightly above average. Males, however, reported that the ideal penis would be 7.27 inches long, which Frederick notes veers “into pornography-sized penises.”
In Frederick’s aforementioned 2006 analysis of a data set of over 30,000 heterosexual women and their thoughts on their partner’s penis size, over 80% of those who said their partner’s penis was average or larger than average said they were “very satisfied” with the size, he explains.
“The bad news for men is that only 40% of women were very satisfied with their partners penis size if they thought their partner was smaller than average. The good news for men, however, is that only 6% of women thought that their partner was smaller than average,” he continues.
This is to say that the whole concept of BDE may be based on a slightly false assumption that sexual partners want a big penis. But for better or worse, everyone now thinks that having a big penis is great, and if you believe you have one, then all the better for you: That’s BDE, baby.
Anyone Played By Julia Louis Dreyfus
Elaine Benes does it like a dude: she shit talks, sleeps around, and is just as much of a dick as any of the guys she hangs with. George Constanza definitely is the embodiment of Small Dick Energy, but out of all the guys there, Elaine definitely embodies Big Dick Energy the most. One time she threatened to have the IRS crawl so far up a politician’s colon, he better think the only thing they find is more cancer! You’re gonna need to have a proverbially big dick to get that far up their colon so they feel completely emasculated. And I don’t even have to say that much about Selina Meyer. How can the first female president NOT have BDE?
Is it his love of PDA (public displays of affection)?
Perhaps Pete’s allure to women is the way he’ll happily demonstrate his affections via social media, his tattoos or just not being able to keep his hands off his current girlfriend in public.
Just a few months after his split from Ariana, Pete confirmed his romance with London-born actress Kate Beckinsale, 45, by packing on the PDA and passionately kissing as they sat courtside at a New York Rangers ice hockey game.
The pair met at the Golden Globes afterparty and had no issue with the 20-year age gap, with Kate telling American TV show Extra what she found attractive, saying, “Funny. I like funny.”
They split after four months and Kate told the Los Angeles Times she’d, “never dated anybody who comes with their own bag of mischief. It’s all quite shocking and something to get used to.”
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Pete and Kaia couldn’t keep their hands off each other on their poolside dateCredit: Splash News
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Pete and Kate Beckinsale at the New York Rangers gameCredit: Rex Features
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Pete and Kate Beckinsale made no secret of their affection at the gameCredit: Rex Features
His love-in with Hillary Clinton?
Pete supported Hillary Clinton in the 2016 US presidential election and on December 5th, 2017, he revealed on Instagram that he got a tattoo on her face on his leg.
He shared the snap of his inking and wrote: «Wanted to get @hillaryclinton a Christmas gift so I got a tattoo of my hero. Thanks for being such a badass and one of the strongest people in the universe.»
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The comedian has a tattoo of Hillary Clinton on his leg
Hillary thanked Pete for the compliment and joked: «This makes it significantly less awkward that I’ve had a Pete Davidson tattoo for years.»
Whatever it is, he’s clearly irresistible to the rich and famous…
An unapologetic love of smoking pot?
In 2017, Pete revealed he was diagnosed with a borderline personality disorder that leaves him depressed, “all the time.”
He also suffers from Crohn’s disease — a chronic inflammatory bowel disease that affects the lining of the digestive tract – and he revealed during an interview with Howard Stern in September 2018 that he smoked marijuana regularly to help with Crohn’s and his mental health issues.
“It helps more than you can imagine,” he said.
“There was a point where I couldn’t get out of bed. I was 110 pounds. I also just love smoking weed. I’ve been smoking weed every day for eight years.”
He did go into rehab and get sober for three months but told Stern it didn’t work: “I was never sadder and everything was way worse.”
After his stint in rehab, he shared his story on the SNL Weekend Update, joking about being sober, masturbating ‘all the bad kids out’, and horse therapy.
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Pete leaves an LA nightclub with Kate in FebruaryCredit: The Mega Agency
So it’s all right then?
Not really, because the subject could be considered sexist and could contribute to the bodyshaming to which men who are less spoiled by nature feel victims. Their confidence would be damaged, as would their energy, thus confirming, through no fault of their own, the relevance of a literal interpretation of the expression.
But no need to cancel everything. While some feminists find that reducing men to their bodies is undesirable, they also consider the harm to be less than that done to women. The assumption that there could be an oppressive systemic sexism for men, which is reinforced by a few comments on the supposed BDE of this or that personality, seems to them utterly absurd.
The phallic reference may not reinforce a system that discriminates against men, but it would lead, according to others, to toxic masculinity. Even by stating that women can, like men, shine with their Big Dick Energy, the use of this term contributes to the persistence of lexical and metaphorical fields of male chauvinism (such as the association of ‘balls’ with courage). And these are not neutral in terms of values. In particular, women, who are increasingly accustomed to gender-neutral language, may find it difficult to project themselves into a representation whose words exclude them from the outset.
A Brief Introduction of Pete and his “Big Dick Energy”
Pete Davidson is an actor and comedian who rose to fame after being cast on SNL back in 2014. At the time, he was only 20 years old – already a huge feat in itself! He was definitely a fan favorite – regularly appearing on Weekend Update as himself (or, as they introduced him, the resident “young person”) and in the ever-popular Chad sketches.
But his real fame (you know, the tabloid kind) came in 2018 after he started dating pop-sensation Ariana Grande. And, then, as if that wasn’t shocking enough, the two got engaged less than a month later.
That whole escapade caused a social media frenzy and basically launched the term “Big Dick Energy.”
In reality, the term was coined weeks earlier as a tribute to the late Anthony Bourdain, but then that infamous paparazzi photo of Ariana licking a lollipop and gazing with lust at Pete came out.
Then, as if that wasn’t enough, she all-but confirmed his ahem *size* in a since-deleted tweet and the internet lost it’s collective mind.
And just like that, Pete Davidson would forever be connected to the term Big Dick Energy (or, BDE as it’s often referred to.)
But, What Exactly is “BDE”?
While Pete (allegedly) is quite blessed in the phallic area, Big Dick Energy is not actually about size (or length, or girth, or anything else that can be physically measured.) Rather, BDE is about the vibe you give off. So the emphasis is on the E and not the D.
Basically, someone with Big Dick Energy has a certain kind of confidence – they’re not arrogant or showy. They don’t have anything to prove. They know who they are and what they bring to the table and they’re comfortable with that.
But, BDE is not the only reason why women love Pete Davidson.
Lala Kent
You need a lot of balls to cheat, lie, throw drinks, and nearly commit murder on camera for Vanderpump Rules. But you need hella Big Dick Energy to suck milk and honey out of a baby bottle on camera for Vanderpump Rules. Lala’s epic one-liners alone emit BDE. “Obviously I’m not getting paid to have sex, although that would be dope”—that would make a great Seeking Arrangements slogan, boo. “I’d like to thank my little kitty cat because it takes that D like a champ”—better than any Oscars thank you speech. “Once you let a guy inside any of your holes, it’s very easy to get back in”—engrave that into my grave. Lala lives everyday like it’s payday, and luckily for us, every day just so happens to be a good day to take your top off. And that, right there, is the essence of Big Dick Energy.
BDE Can’t Be Forced or Faked, but You May Gain It With Time
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Remember, BDE is something you have or you don’t, it isn’t something you can fake – trying that would actually be in direct opposition to the effortless, organic vibe exuded by a person with big dick energy. It might instead come across as, shall we say, “mediocre dick energy.” People can tell when an attitude is forced, and there’s little so unattractive as a poseur.
Try hard to exude BDE and you’ll do anything but. Learn to be confident and happy with who you really are, and your big dick energy might just start to shine through. So while you may not feel like a dick swinging type right now, go easy on yourself and you might just ease into a BDE vibe a bit later down the road.